The fifth must do when I want to isolate is: Reach out to others. Many times I wait too long to do this—if I do it at all! I waited too long to reach out over my summer months, when I was hurting.
I have a hard time asking for help. Can you relate?
There is a risk involved here. What if the person I am reaching out to, says no? I can spiral into a deeper FUNK. I can say, “FINE! I will just do this on my own.” Then isolation becomes my prison cell.
I need to understand that not everyone is capable of helping. I might get a no. It’s not personal, it’s just an honest answer. I need to honor the people who tell me no. Maybe they can’t keep that commitment, or it might be that they just don’t want to help. And that should be okay with me, shouldn’t it?
And to those who say no, try replying like this:
“I can’t help right now or I might become overwhelmed with the wrong things. But I will help you find somebody who can.”
Reaching out to others is risky. Better to swallow a big tablespoon of pride, than to chew through a wall of isolation, bite by bite.