The fourth must do when I want to Isolate is: Delegate well.
I have a friend who unexpectedly got pregnant and had a baby in her forties. It has been so long since she had to deal with little ones, that she forgot how exhausting it can be to raise an infant. She complained to me about needing groceries, but didn’t have time to get them due to juggling work, and all her motherly duties.
She told me that her mother-in-law has been pressuring her to get out of the house. Mother-in-law wants to watch the baby and give my friend, and her husband a well deserved break. The problem however, is that my friend does not need this. What she needs is someone to bring her groceries.
I kindly looked at her and said, “So in your opinion, who is at fault?”
“People can’t read minds, sister. Why don’t you simply delegate well and tell her what would help you?”
“Because it would be quicker if I just do it. By the time I stop to make a list, I might as well just do it myself.”
Delegating well—saying what we need, keeps us from isolating ourselves from others and becoming resentful. AND it’s quicker to delegate a grocery list, rather than taking the extra time to do it yourself. It truly is.
Too many times we don’t ask for the help we need–even within our own inner circle.
Admit you can’t do it all.
Hello, my name is Dawna, and I can’t do everything on my own!
Delegating well allows me to express that I need help. It also provides a beautiful gift to others: Allowing them to serve. It forces my heart to graciously accept that gift with a simple thank you. And most importantly, it helps me not to isolate.