The sixth must do when I want to isolate is: Learn to Say a Loving no. Learning how to say no, graciously, but still no – can be a life-saver. I am the most overwhelmed when I simply don’t know how, or I’m not willing to set reasonable boundaries for myself. In turn, I end up committing to much more than I can reasonably accomplish.
This in turn leads to isolation because I can become inundated, and end up exhausted, behind my wall of isolation. But maybe I would not end up behind that wall, if no was a common word in my vocabulary.
I have been working diligently on saying no more often. My motto was (and still sometimes is): I CAN DO IT! And I want to do it all, because my value can become entangled in my doing, rather than just being.
Instead of jumping to say yes, pray about it. Is this something that God would have you do? Ask your spouse’s opinion.
Should the answer be no, or you can’t, or shouldn’t or you won’t, or don’t want to……then help find another person who can say yes.
Learning to say a loving, but firm no, will help me stay focused on what is truly important—resting in the moment and not resting from exhaustion.