The third must do when I want to isolate is: Question my assumptions.
Too often I isolate because it’s the familiar thing to do. I have isolated in the past, why shouldn’t I isolate now? But this is exactly why I should question my reasoning for giving myself a time out.
Do I rejuvenate every time I isolate? Or am I that girl, balled up in the corner sucking her thumb? The one who needs to wear her “big-girl pants”.
Some days, corner time is called for—it rejuvenates me. Sometimes it is not.
When I ask myself why I need to isolate and what it will do for me, and if I’m honest with myself, I can then determine if isolation from others is necessary.
Sometimes I need someone to shake some sense into me, and help me with my befuddled thinking. Many times their view point is more realistic than mine— helps me to see things in the correct perspective.
If I don’t question my assumptions, I might otherwise believe that isolation is ALWAYS good for me. Then I would never move out of my comfortable, lonely corner. And if I remain there, I will never get to see how great those “big-girl pants” fit me.