I walked by a sign that caught my eye; Waxing the City. It instructed: Get your smooth on. I immediately thought of inquiring for a friend who has a REALLY hairy back. Should he get his smooth on?
Then I wondered if this was judgmental. Was I assuming that hairiness is a bad thing? I considered others (including myself) who have judged or jumped to conclusions about a person. Like the woman who wore something too revealing, in a place where she ought not. The person who acted inappropriately in church (oh, wait that was me). The friend who isn’t practicing purity, or the married woman having an affair. My thoughts were then bombarded with questions about judging. Such as, when do I actually cross the line from discernment to judgement?
First and foremost, I need to ask myself if the person in question, is asking for my opinion. Did the woman (whom I didn’t even know) ask me if her outfit was too out of line? No? Then maybe an adoring smile might have helped her feel loved, and accepted, despite her exterior appearance.
And does my opinion really matter? Or is it God who justifies, and judges with righteousness?
True, I need to be discerning. I need to ask myself, does this person or situation affect my relationship with God. If not, maybe just maybe, I can love the person living outside of God’s will (like God does). Perhaps once loved, that person might come to me and ask for my opinion. In which I will respond, “Who cares about my opinion. Let’s consider what God has to say about this.”
Possibly, loving and not judging will lead to the REAL issue at hand. It will guide and direct conversations, that can actually help someone. Jesus displayed this beautifully in His conversation with The Woman at the Well. She was a woman, a Samaritan, and living in sin. She had a lot of strikes against her. He could have been judgmental. He could have said, “Woman, what’s wrong with you? You have been married many times, and now you are living with a man in sin.” But Jesus took another route. He asked her questions. He lovingly pointed her to truth. And what happened was, she believed!
That’s the truth about judging. Simply don’t do it Dawna. Leave the judging to God. Love more. Like Jesus. Then I will be able to see past the outfits. Look beyond the sin, and see the hurting. Focus on a persons inner beauty and uniqueness, and then I will miss the distraction of the hairy backs of the world.