An ocean backdrop, a tropical breeze, and sand beneath the feet—there’s something about weddings, especially in a setting like this.
Stepping out of the van, I breathed in the ocean air. The walkway met the beach and we took off our shoes as if entering holy ground. Sand wiggled between my toes and my fingers slid between his. Amazed each time I hold his hand, how perfectly it fits mine. David and I strolled toward the water where the Cabo sun lounged leisurely in the sky.
The ceremony commenced.
Snuggling up next to David, I tried to tune in, but I was held captive by the sheer beauty of this place. A wave broke and the roar of the water turned my attention back to the wedding ceremony. As the water sizzled on the beach, the Pastor said, “Focus on what is right between you.”
I leaned in to hear more. Looking at the Bride and Groom he said, “If you don’t remember anything else that I have said to you this day, remember this: Your life as one—it won’t always be like this.” He let one arm sweep over the ocean and then the other arm pass over us in the audience.
“When life presses in, when disagreements come (and they will), focus on what is right between the two of you. Look into his soul and remember what you love about him,” he said looking at the Bride. Then focusing at the groom, “When you look at her, recall all the reasons why you chose to say, I do.”
I blinked processing his words. If we did this in ALL of our relationships, wouldn’t they emerge stronger?
~The coworker that drives you crazy. What’s right and good about her?
~Your son that you can’t connect with, what do you love about him?
~Your wife, the one you promised to do life with, recall the reasons you chose her.
When we focus on what is right between us, we see as God sees us.
I linked my arm in David’s as we headed to the reception. Silently, I named all the things that are good and true about him. And us.
I fought back a smile. And then set it free.