She walked right out of my life.
She’d asked me to meet with her because she wanted advice. So I lovingly (and hopefully gracefully) spoke truth to her. But what I later realized was that she didn’t want honesty. What she longed for was fluff—for me to validate her actions.
I couldn’t. Friends don’t operate that way.
We can still love one another while disagreeing.
I pursued her for over a year with texts and calls reminding her that I loved her and believed in her, but one fact remained; she didn’t want to be well.
It was at that point, after exhausting all efforts that God gave me peace about releasing her.
When do I give up on someone? If I was to respond from a place of hurt and woundedness I would say, kick them out of your life! But that’s not how God operates.
God never gives up on us, yet He gives us our space and free will to choose.
The story of the prodigal son best describes how God does relationship. The prodigal son asked for his inheritance, left his father’s house, and traded his wealth for pleasure. The father knew that his son must figure out life for himself, so he let him go.
But scripture tells us that when the son returned, the Father had been watching and waiting for him. He had lived in hope and faith that his son would return. And when he did, the father ran to greet his son.
When you aren’t certain what to do in a relationship:
*Ask for wisdom about your situation. God will either give you a stirring of pursuit, or a peace about letting go.
*Pray for that person. Even if he or she hurt you. Every time my friend comes to mind, I pray for her.
*Look forward not backward. The father scanned the horizon waiting for his son to return—or at least find his way. Our hearts should be like our Father’s—always desiring the lost to be found.
Perhaps my friend will never return to me, but if I’m truly pursuing God’s heart, I can’t give up on her.
I will declare in faith that she will find her way.