Once a year David and I take an “unplugged” vacation. When I share this with others, many respond with, “What’s that?”
Simply put, it’s alone time together with no phones, email or social media—we unplug from the world. I only use my phone for pictures, always keeping it in airplane mode so I won’t be distracted from texts, emails, or alerts.
This year, we returned to Live Aqua Spa and Resort in Cancun. Entering our room, we were greeted with a fun welcome: colored rice decorating our bed and a bottle of champagne on ice.
I went out to our veranda to see the view. I could feel myself decompressing.
Our initial greeting was just the beginning. Each night we returned to our room, there was something waiting for us. Like a rose petal lined floor, leading to a candlelight bubblebath.
Or a sleepy sheep handmade just for us.
Ten glorious days of this and having David all to myself.
Each year when we disconnect from the world, I’m reawakened to the fact that I’m addicted to my phone. This is why I need to unplug. More than time away, it’s a time of discovery.
This year, I realized that the person I love most, often comes last.
But in Cancun, David was the only one that got my full attention.
And shared a lounge chair.
Sometimes doing nothing, is truly something.
I found that my phone distracts me from seeing the world as it truly is. When looking down, I’m missing up. Like José, who poured his heart into cooking for us poolside. Tears welled in his eyes as we talked. I’m not sure if it was from the smoke of the barbecue or his passion for what he does. He uses his own secret recipe to make the most amazing chicken and ribs.
If I was looking at my phone, I might have missed Marco making his wonderful smoothies and serving up smiles.
Or meeting a new friend and hearing her story. Face to face.
What else am I oblivious to when focused on a screen?
Returning home, I learned one last lesson: my phone can be an idol. And I know what God says about idols. Back at work, I was greeted with over two thousand emails which made my computer seize up due to the shear volume. I called tech support and the guy scolded me. “Why in the world didn’t you check your email while on vacation?”
“Because I took an “unplugged” vacation.”
And of course he asked, “What’s that?”
I sighed, “It’s when we go away and turn off our phones. No emails, calls, text, or social media. It’s imperative to our relationship to give each other 100% attention and reconnect.”
He paused then said, “Oh my god, I would DIE!”
To which I said, “I’ve never felt more alive.”
And that’s why I need to unplug.